Searching for some kind of guidance

Dear Mark and Claire, I have been searching for some kind of guidance regarding my situation and would greatly appreciate any feedback you can give me. I have been reading books, articles and websites about twin souls, but it is only making me feel worse. In my case, I have not met my twin flame, but was my husband has and it is eating me up inside. When I met my husband (22 years and 5 kids ago), I felt we were soul mates that had profound love for each other and we were destined to be together. Although things were not perfect, I thought we had a good thing going. However, two years ago he had a reading done. The reader discovered an existing relationship and then I became informed about it. He had fallen in love with a younger coworker, who appears to be his twin flame. (It was not a full blown affair, although there was a physical component to it and strong physical attraction.) Based on what I have read and what he has told me, I think this is correct. She also reciprocates his feelings (she is single and knows he is married). For months he maintained contact with her (although I asked him not to) and was more concerned about her well being than mine. At least, that is the way it seemed to me. He finds that there is an irristable draw to her and it is difficult for him to stop thinking about her. He has a strong connection to her and he senses what she goes through and feels. Since then I have been going through quite an upheaval. The depth of pain and hurt is something I could never have imagined. It has been tormenting. Although my husband says he wouldn't leave me because he knows it won't work with her and he is "supposed" to be with me in this lifetime, he didn't want to let her go. They way he sees it is, he loves us both and he doesn't understand why I feel that his love for her diminishes his love for me. Yet I feel tremendous sadness - for what feels like the loss of love, for the loss of trust, for the loss of security, for the loss of innocence, for the sense of betrayal and for the knowledge that there is another soul mate relationship that is more profound and loving than the one we have. To say I have been hurt is an understatement. Although it has been 2 years since I found out, I find myself still struggling to put it all behind me, to let go of the hurt, to restore the love between us and to rebuild a sense of security. Although he says he will stay with me and has, reluctantly, started letting her go, I do not feel it when he says he loves me. I am not sure if I even believe him, although he would argue that, yes, he does love me. Part of me still is fearful that, in the future, he will reconnect with her. At times, I get the sense that there is a good chance this will happen. At other times, I get the message that (as incredibly painful as it will be), I should just bow out and not be in the way of this twin flame connection. It seems like something that is too strong for me to fight and I am getting tired. I feel that a twin soul love does not compare to a twin flame love, at least not in this case. As much as I don't want to, I am beginning to think that all this means I might have to leave and move on by myself. I guess my questions are - Is there any way of making this relationship work now that the twin flame has come on the scene? Is there any way to restore the love that was there between myself and my husband for the 20 plus years before he met his twin flame? Or is it now hopeless? Do you have any advice to help me get over the hurt and pain and move forward while still staying in this marriage? Any insight is greatly appreciated. Sincerely, Louise S. ...Louise S

Hi Mark and Claire, Thanks for your response! I have been told that my twin flame has not incarnated at this time :) And I think that is accurate. ...Louise S